Moms Don’t Need More Time to Themselves
Debunking the Myth of Why Moms feel Motherhood is Unfulfilling
Why do so many women feel unfulfilled as a mom?
There is a common unspoken stigma that moms are not to find fulfillment in motherhood. The rise of mommy blogs, self-help books, social media influencers, and various other resources all try to address one common issue: making women feel fulfilled during motherhood. The number of women who feel unsatisfied, unhappy, and unfulfilled while raising their children is astronomical.
The pressure that you have to be more, have more, do more can lead to a mom feeling she is not enough. They have to make it look effortless and give their children the best of themselves 24/7. While they are also being told that motherhood is lonely, treacherous, long suffering and depressing.
Where is this coming from?
The endless pursuit of hobbies, self-care routines, and new interests often feels like a band-aid solution—a way to patch over the deeper longing for something more meaningful. While moms love their families and being a mother it isn’t quite enough.
I’ve observed women sacrificing their sleep by waking up extra early before the rest of their family to have more time to get things done. On the other side of the spectrum, moms stay up into the early morning hours to accomplish their goals. While these practices have good intentions, they often lead to more burnout.
Here’s the truth, and an unpopular opinion: you don’t need more time for yourself! Most Americans today have more convinces and comforts than in any other time in history. In addition with the impact of social media and technology there comes a rise in instant information available 24/7. Studies have found a direct link to the rise in social media use and a decline in an individuals mental health.
What if the answer lies in something eternal?
What if the secret to finding true fulfillment in motherhood wasn’t about focusing on ourselves at all? What if it wasn’t even about motherhood at all? What if the answer lies in something eternal?
What if finding peace, happiness, and satisfaction in motherhood is about discovering our true purpose in life itself: to serve and worship God in all that we do, and to make the gospel the center of our lives?
What is our real purpose?
As moms, we are often tempted to look for fulfillment in the roles we play—whether it’s being the perfect parent, the supportive partner, or the successful professional. But these roles, while important, are not the ultimate source of our identity and worth. Our true purpose surpasses these roles. Our identity should only be rooted in our relationship with God. When we put the other well-meaning roles before our relationship with God we are placing them as an idol in our lives.
When we center our lives on the gospel, we shift our focus from ourselves to God. We make our lives about him and not about us. We begin to see motherhood not just as a role we play, but as a calling to serve God by loving and nurturing the children He has entrusted to us. This shift in perspective transforms our daily tasks, turning them into acts of worship. Changing diapers, preparing meals, comforting a crying child—these become opportunities to glorify God and live out our faith in the most ordinary moments.
What does this mean for Self-Care?
This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t take care of ourselves or enjoy hobbies. It means that these activities should be done with the understanding that our ultimate fulfillment comes from living out God’s purpose for us. It also sets us free from the mindset of unfulfillment or resentment when we are not able to carve out the time to do these things. When we embrace this mindset, we find that the peace, joy, and satisfaction we crave are not dependent on external circumstances but flow from a deep and abiding relationship with God.
Conculusion
In a world that constantly tells us to seek fulfillment in self, the gospel offers a countercultural message: true fulfillment comes from losing ourselves in the service of others and finding our identity in Christ. As moms, this means embracing the role of motherhood as a form of worship and finding our ultimate satisfaction not in our achievements, but in our relationship with God.
So, if you’re a mom struggling to find fulfillment, consider this: maybe the answer isn’t in doing more for yourself, but in giving more of yourself to God. Make the gospel the center of your life, and you’ll discover that motherhood can be one of the most fulfilling, life-giving roles you’ll ever play—not because of who you are, but because of who God is.
Does anything in this post resonate with you or a mom you know? Please share your thoughts in the comments, post it on your social media, and share it with a mom who may need some encouragement.
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